Working very late again tonight and like I've mentioned in my previous posting, blogging is a way for me to stay awake. Tonight I am still awake because the stocktake processing needs to be done. To keep myself busy, I have CSI: NY playing, mafia war games going on and now, I feel like blogging.
Now, back to what's bugging me; I hate it when I have something in my mind but I can't let it out loud, so it is therapeutic to blog about it instead. There's something that I have been thinking for some time now. I may have jotted some down here or there in my previous postings...
Have you guys ever experienced this situation? If yes, please answer my title above. If no, what do you think you would do if you were in the same situation?
Just imagine yourself having a group of people who claim themselves as family or friends but have been behaving as follows:
1 - 'These people' don't call you - actually they do, go to No. 2
2 - 'These people' will call you but not to ask how are you, but to get something out of you (could be money or any sort of assistance)
3 - 'These people' will talk among themselves about you (you will find out once you meet one of them and wow, he/she knows your progress?)
4 - 'These people' will go out / have their gatherings but could not be bothered to call or ask you to come along even if you are in the same area (of course you'll find out through posted pics / blog - internet is not as big as it seems afterall)
5 - 'These people' seemed to dislike people that you hang around with (at times, you could see jealousy but disguised as anger towards your other groups of friends/family members)
Personally, I am very honest in my feelings. If I like something, I'll show it and if I don't like something, I will still show it. For me, life is too short to keep things in your heart. Tell what you feel now or forever hold your peace - no point raising the issue way after it happens, right?
For me, no matter what 'these people' do, I still, in my own way, love them. Most of the time, when they ask me for something, they'll get it - as long as it is within my means. Being someone who cares and protective, I tend to ask a lot more questions about them from others as I do not get updates from 'these people', right? When I call 'these people', they seemed to be too busy or pretend that they are in the middle of something, so conversations are usually cut short. I have been around long enough to get the message when people do not want to talk to me. When asked about the outings done without me, 'these people' will say that it was a spontaneous outing.
Why don't people just tell in front of your face that they don't like you, they don't want to hang out with you, but they are just pretending to be nice in front of you because they may, one day, need your help??? Shameful on those who use people this way and remember, there is always karma, right? If you do not want others to treat you that way, then you do not treat others like that too... Oh well, as long as my conscience is clear, I am content. Sometimes people forget what you've done to help them before this... **sigh** I am actually not angry, but very very sad and disappointed...
Ok readers, what do you think? With all the scenario above, when 'these people' search for you, do they miss you or do they just want something from you??
What would you do next???
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ReplyDeleteI accidentally went through your blog..and i also had the same situation like you..Like you did, i blamed those peoples for the way they treat me..Call when they only need me, when they don't need my assistance they ignore me..It's painful..But one of my friend told me to put myself in their shoes..Try to think why do they treat me that way? What are the reasons they being that way? You will be surprised that it wasn't 100% their fault..parts of it come from us..If you still cannot find answers for your questions..why don't you ask them what actually their problems..That i'm sure you will get all the answers that you want..Good luck in solving your problems..Hope i'm able to help you..Take care..
ReplyDeleteHi Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment. I agree with you on your points - I know why they are like that:
1. I am over-protective and tend to voice out my opinions too frankly
2. They are not comfortable with my relationship here in KL - maybe at times, they may feel inferior but I can't help it, right?
3. I'm not surprised at all if they don't want to talk to me just because they are hiding something from me - not to hurt me maybe?
At the end of the day, I will always be here for them...